9 Useful Tips for First-time Parents
9 Useful Tips for First-time Parents
As a new parent you will realize that there are a lot of adjustments that you will have to make in all aspects of your life. You will have to reset your priorities, discard some behaviors and make a lot of sacrifices. Being a parent is not just about having babies, it involves taking care of the tiny human beings until they grow up to become independent people. Your first time in parenthood is usually the hardest period. First time parents usually face a lot of challenges which can be overcome as long as they face and handle each one calmly. These tips can be a useful guide to parenting for first time parents especially for the couples, although they can be beneficial to single parents too.
#1 Adjust your mindset
Parenting may seem as daunting as a new job of which you have no experience. You might be afraid of making mistakes or you might doubt your capabilities. Nobody is born a parent but when the time comes it is wired in human beings to take good care of the new arrival. It is important to recognize that parenting is a tough job but it is also very rewarding; it makes you value the work your parents did in bringing you up. A newborn baby entirely depends on its parents for survival. The first few months of parenthood should thus be taken very seriously in order to foster good development of the baby.
#2 Time management
First time parents should plan in advance for the baby since they will have to reschedule their life completely. The newborn baby sleeps most of the time yet it needs full time attention. Sleep patterns will have to change for the sake of meeting the baby’s needs. It can be very tiresome, especially to the mother, for the first few days of adapting to a different time table. A baby should be fed every two to three hours without fail in order to ensure that their nutritional needs are met for ample development. Breast milk provides enough nutrients needed by the baby for the first six months of life, which can seem like a very long time at first but it is very doable. Amid working and house hold chores new parents need to spend quality time with their infant. You might need to cut down on other activities, such as leisure time, for a while in order to spend time together as a new family.
#3 Use only relevant advice
People will likely flock to your home with gifts and a desire to hold your baby and advice you on how to raise your baby. Relatives, friends and even strangers are usually eager to give advice to first time parents even when it is uncalled for. Some of these advices could be contradictory to each other and you cannot follow them all. One reason is because every parent-baby pair is different, what worked for another could fail to work for you. Also, following all advice can lead to frustrations if they do not work. You are capable of making good choices and decisions, based on what you think is right for your baby. Do listen and thank your advisors for their advice, but you are not obliged to follow all the advices, depending on your personal circumstances. The only advice which you should never ignore is that of your child’s doctor concerning the health and wellbeing of your baby. Do it your way, if you not sure consult many sources and weigh before finally choosing the best option. The internet has numerous resources which can be of help, but do not rely heavily on it for advice; rather seek information from the people around you.
#4 Maintain relationships
Relationships with friends, family member or with your partner might change with the baby’s arrival mainly because the baby will take most of your time. A baby becomes the focus of attention in the house, if you are not careful; you could find yourself drawing apart with your partner. Keep your relationships reasonable by spending time together or find someone to baby sit and go out have fun. Having a baby does not mean an end to the relationship you had before as a couple. Build a good relationship with the baby too, by holding it and talking to it. Always remember that you are dealing with a helpless creature that can only communicate by crying, so understand that baby cries are inevitable. Talk kindly to your baby, there is no need to get angry at it because of crying.
# 5 Budget spending
A baby will definitely make you to spend more money than you spent before, for new clothes, beddings, nappies or diapers. The business world is full of numerous accessories for the baby some of which are very useless and pointless. Some items however, are important and useful such as a baby cot or pram. When choosing the baby accessories, consider the size of your pocket and the necessity of these items. If you had not started to save some money to secure your child’s future start right away. You could start saving for school fees as early as they arrive.
#6 Take care of physical health
The new baby and mother need to take enough rest after delivery. They are both tired and the mother needs some time to heal. A new mother should take proper care of her hygiene in order to prevent infections especially in her genitalia. Caring for the newborn’s health includes keeping it clean all the time and disinfecting its navel until it heals. Keep track of the weight of the baby so that you can be sure that it is growing at a good pace and you will notice if anything goes wrong. The mother should visit the gynecologist a month or two after birth to check on the progress of healing. A baby is very prone to getting sick due to dirt, and do not be afraid to give people instructions while they carry four baby. For example, prohibit cheek touching, it can lead to your baby getting a rash on the cheeks.
#7 Deal with mental stress
For first time parents, stress is inevitable but not impossible to deal with. The new life will cause strains on the parents as they familiarize with their new reality. At times first time parents can become stressed up and frustrated because of the many changes which they need to make after the baby’s arrival. To ensure that you do not have a mental breakdown, be there for each other, talk to other parents or keep friends and family close by.
#8 Visit the pediatric doctor frequently
It is normal for first time parents to worry too much about the baby’s welfare this could lead to frequent visits to the doctor even if some of them are not necessary. It is better to take the precaution though so do not doubt your parenting skills if you keep going to the doctor only to be told there is nothing wrong with your baby. If you notice anything that seems amiss with your baby ask other parents or your healthcare specialist so that you may not take things for granted. Never ignore anything you think is not right with the baby, they are very vulnerable to disease and if not taken care of it can be fatal.
#9 Work as a team
It is a new experience for both of you so work together. It takes two to make the baby so corporate also to raise the baby. First time mothers goes through labor pains and delivery which will make them tired for the first few weeks. Let them heal and help or you employ a nanny to help with household chores and babysitting. Some company’s grant paternity leave to fathers thus they should seize that opportunity to stay with the mother, offering her support and have some bonding time with the baby.