Top 5 Ways To Discover Your Child’s Talent!
Luckily, you don’t need expensive tests to tell you what activities your child finds interesting. Some activities trigger their imagination and excite them so much that they will practice them without being told to. What you need to do as a parent is just to observe your child. As parent you want your children to be successful in a variety of ways. Your kids want nothing more than to please you as a parent, which is the reason why they keep doing activities they might not even like just to please you. These situations keep your child from developing their own talents and interests. As parents you need to notice what your children choose to do when they don’t need to please anyone. We have listed for you a top 5 ways to discover your child’s talent!
1. Give your child real choices
It is very normal that as a parent you want your child to appreciate music for example, so you sign them up for piano lessons. Don’t forget to give your child the choice to like or dislike the activity you would like them to do and if their abilities really lie there. If your child just likes to be more engaged with for example drumming or singing, don’t ban your kids from doing that. You can’t force them to be happy with doing an activity you like. Let them experience different activities and let them choose what they like. The chance is bigger that their talent lies there. Kids are going to be who they are, despite who you want to make them. The key is to let your kid explore different angles of an activity and to watch for what really grabs their attention.
2. Validate your child’s interests
For most of the parents playing video games is a waste of time, but if your child is into graphics, animation, storytelling or problem solving, it may be boosting his or her inner talents. Parents often categories the activities their kids like to do, but by doing so they may miss the details. Instead of criticizing the activities your child does, try to see the skills they have while doing those activities. Try to validate them by saying for example, “Wow, I noticed you like playing games”. Or ‘I can see you’re really good at it’! By telling them it’s a waste of time you might only crush their desire to pursue their interests.
3. Encourage expression
If your child comes home from school, puts off their laptop and starts writing a short story just for fun, you might be thrilled. But what if your child sits down to draw cartoons or to write riddles? What if your child spends an hour creating crossword puzzles? You should encourage your child in the activities they like to do! Loving to write and writing what you love go hand in hand. And the moment you show that you don’t like how they express themselves or feel limited in expressing themselves, they might stop expressing creatively. Even if their passions seem so unrealistic to you, just let them dream and follow their heart. Eventually you don’t know where God will lead them.
4. Expose your children to a variety of different activities
Try your best not to limit your children to what is comfortable and familiar to you. It is normal that if you grew up playing sports for example soccer, you also want your son to play soccer. It’s natural to get your children involved in sports, but that may not be their interest or talent. Try other activities as well. You can search your local community for activities that may be available. You can also search for activities that are available near your house on our website My AOne Learning. Open your mind and your child’s mind to lots of possibilities. You might get surprised what your child could be talented in!
5. Forget about you
Whether your child loves or hates the activity you want him to do, you shouldn’t be judging your child. What your child likes to do is not a reflection of you. In fact, it’s not about you at all. A lot of the parents want their child to do activities or be good at the activities they wanted to play when they were younger or the weren’t good at. But don’t forget it is not about you. Remember to put aside your own interests, prejudices and preconceptions. If you’re disappointed by your child’s lack of interest in an activity, just reminds yourself that it is not your life. You might not have the same interests as your child. At the end of the day they are going to live their life the way they want and in a way they will enjoy it. Chances are, the consequences aren’t worth your worry.