Top 5 Ways to Get Your Kid to Stop Begging and Whining!
It’s nothing new for parents if their child starts whining in the middle of the streets or starts begging for candy in the supermarket. Your child wants something, and tries to get it from you by needling you endlessly. Sometimes, the whining even escalates to tantrums. This behaviour is not just annoying. Left unchecked, this can lead to your child becoming entitled. We have made a top 5 list of ways to get your kid to stop begging and whining!
1. Refuse to let it bother you
Pick a quiet time and tell your child that there’s a new rule: If he whines, you won’t respond. From then on, whenever he whines, keep your facial expression absolutely neutral. Calmly tell your child that you can’t understand what he wants when he whines and that you’ll listen when he talks in a nicer voice. You might also ask him to choose a signal for you to use as a warning sign when you’re about to stop listening, such as pulling on your ear.
2. Give praise where praise is due
“Parents always point out, ‘That’s not a nice voice’ but often don’t provide enough positive reinforcement”. You might say, “Thanks for using your normal voice” or “My ears love that voice.” This can work wonders for your child. Whenever they ask for something politely, just acknowledge it and thank them. At first, you might feel awkward being so effusive, but their whining will decrease dramatically.
3. Make sure your child knows what “asking nicely” means
They may not even realize they are whining or they may not truly understand what the word means. But the best way to explain it is to tape-record both her whiny and pleasant voices and then play them back for her. But do make it clear that you’re using the tape to help them learn and not to make them feel bad. You may also have to teach them the specific words to use when they wants to tell you that they are tired, hungry, bored, or frustrated. Kids really want to do what’s right, but too often, we mistakenly assume that they know what’s right. When you show them, they have a model to copy.”
4. Lessen television time
Kids are especially susceptible to television advertising. According to Psychology Today, young children don’t have the cognitive tools to differentiate commercials and television programs, and so are much easier to reel in. Kids are also less likely to be able to tell the difference between advertising and reality, so it’s only natural that your child would end up begging for a toy that she recently saw on TV. Better stick to on-demand programming or DVDs.
5. Find middle ground
If what your child is asking for is reasonable save for some conditions, you can bargain with him. If your child wants ice cream, for example, tell him to eat his vegetables. If he wants another toy but you think he has more than enough, tell him to give some of them away first.